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Color Bath

Bath Fizzy       Volunteers needed this month.

I would like to try something this month and then get your feedback so I can write about it in a future blog.

Color therapy doesn’t have to be expensive or time consuming. Best yet, you don’t even need to leave the comfort of your own home. I am suggesting an easy way to relax, meditate and balance your chakras.

All you need to do is buy some colored bath tablets such as Sesame Street’s Fizzy Tub Colors and drop them into your bath water.  The colors you want to focus on would be in the rainbow: red, orange, yellow, green, blue, indigo and violet.  Red is for your root chakra. Orange is for your sacral chakra. Yellow is for your solar plexus chakra. Green is for your heart chakra. Blue (1 blue tablet) is for your throat chakra. Indigo (2-3 blue tablets) for your third eye chakra. Violet for your crown chakra.  If you need additional information about your chakras, go to my website for additional clarification:

http://www.thewillowconnection.com/

If you aren’t sure about which chakra you want to balance, just pick the color you are drawn to.  That will be the color you need so trust your instincts. Then just climb in and relax. Notice how the color surrounds you and how you feel. For an extra sensory experience, you can diffuse oils, burn candles, listen to music and even sip on a glass of wine.  If you are feeling creative, you can use some bath crayons to write affirmations or your feelings on the wall. You could also draw a picture that comes to mind. Try to carve out at least 30 minutes of time so you can be alone and focus only on yourself. No phones, no TV, and no interruptions. I know that may be difficult for those of you with small children but try. You deserve it.

After that, I would love to hear about your experience. I’ve done this a few times and it is very therapeutic for me.  I can’t wait to hear about yours.

 

 

Morning Prayer

 I start each morning with a prayer and conclude every night with one as well.  It keeps me grounded. It helps me focus on other people besides myself and what I should be thankful for instead of what is missing in my life. This morning was no different. I got up and fed the cats and poured myself a cup of coffee. Since I didn’t have to go to work, I was able to relax, say my prayer and take some time to reflect on what I actually say to my angels, guides and God everyday.

It occurred to me this morning that while my life isn’t a picture-perfect rendition of a Norman Rockwell painting, it surely isn’t the muddied remains of a color theory project gone wrong. It’s not so much that I didn’t already know this as much as I needed to be reminded.  I’m not of such high moral character that I would ever preach how one should live their life, behave or feel, but I do recognize we are all in search of the same thing.  It’s not wealth or status or having the best house and car. It’s not even perfect health or love. It’s far more complex and that is why it is so often unattainable.  I believe what we all yearn for is the need to be understood.  It sounds like such a simple thing but if that were the case, we’d all be much happier.  Children wouldn’t be testing their parents’ limits, couples wouldn’t be fighting over trivial matters and a lot of therapists would find themselves in the unemployment line. I’m not suggesting that understanding is the secret to a perfect life because that does not exist.  Without some conflict, a person is not capable of learning the deeper meaning of life or realizing his or her own personal expansion.  I do, however, think it is a cornerstone. Although understanding does not guarantee agreement or acceptance, it does allow for flexibility in thought patterns and offers a level of consciousness leaning towards mutual respect. When respect is practiced then it allows for all the other wonderful things we want such a happiness and love.

I’ve been in some particularly traumatic relationships throughout my life, but I wouldn’t be who I am today had I not experienced them.  Each time, I learned valuable lessons that armed me with more knowledge and understanding to deal with subsequent relationships.  I can honestly say that I am grateful for those lessons now that I have regained my equilibrium because I know I am in better shape to be successful in future relationships with both men and women. It doesn’t mean I don’t hurt sometimes or feel angry and violated, but I don’t harbor hatred or resentment for the pain I suffered.  I take full responsibility for my role in those failed relationships because I enabled the behavior that ultimately caused our demise. I often say, “It’s a process,” and I remind others and myself that wisdom and understanding takes time.  God didn’t send us here with a how-to manual, but He did equip us with intelligence to adapt and a heart to love.

I’ve been single over a year now. Before that, I settled for relationships that made me feel alone. So, is there a difference? Yes, the difference being that now I am in control of my destiny. It does not have control over me.  I often hear people describe their relationships as abusive, lacking, complicated, inequitable and lonely. All those descriptions resonate with me still because I understand the pain that is attached to each of them. I was prisoner to those feelings for most of my life but not anymore.  Now, when I hear people talk about their troubled relationships I listen because I care, but I am grateful for the life I have today. I understand what drove me to this point and I honor it.  Through time and understanding I now accept we all have our own life path and not everyone is meant to be with us forever.  Sometimes understanding yourself or someone you love or once loved is learning to let go. It’s God’s way or telling us that something or someone better suited to our needs is waiting for us. We just have to understand that it’s part of the plan and trust it will happen when we are ready to receive it.

Amen

So many thanks!

 

I was raised to say please and thank you, so please bear with me while I thank so many wonderful people who have been a part of me for the past several years.

I have been blessed having so many beautiful friends and because of that I can’t possibly name you all. Just know that if we have conversed online or in person or spent time together sharing heart-to-heart talks, I am talking to you. You know who are and I thank you for everything.

First and foremost, I want to thank my daughters, Kianne Lei and Jessilyn Rebecca, for encouraging and believing in me.  You have supported my growth and confidence as a mother and as a woman in more ways than you can imagine.

To my sister, Paige JoAnne, who shared her spiritual fire with me many years ago and sparked the flame that now burns within me. Thank you.

Thanks to my family members who have not given up on me and remain by my side.

I have had the pleasure of working with so many spirited individuals. You have become part of my family inside and outside of school. Thank you to: Angela, Anne Marie, April, Corey, Diana, Gail, Janet, Lisa, Lynn, Mary Jane, Pam, Tammy and Terri and so many others. Special thanks to my soul sisters, Stacy and Jan.

Thank you to Christina for braving the highs and lows with me all these years.

To my newly found cousins Judy, Brian and Bill and their families. Thank you for wanting me.

To Tom and Michael for being there when others weren’t. Thank you.

To Jeff for helping me learn more about myself. Thank you.

Thanks to Jack for finding me. Your friendship means the world to me.

To Nadine and Del for teaching me so much. Thank you.

To Karen for teaching me Reiki and being my mentor.

To Jess for all her advice, knowledge and guidance with my new essential oil venture. Thank you!!

To Jen for helping me with all the legal stuff. You are my sunshine.

To Abbie for illustrating my vision. The Willow Connection logo exists because of you. It is amazing and I thank you so very much for your generosity and talent.

Extra special thanks to Mike for making my website. Thank you for being so patient while I added and revised over and over again. You have made my vision a reality and I am eternally grateful.

I would be remiss if I didn’t acknowledge two very important cats. Without their presence in my life, I would not be where I am today. Thank you to Phoebe for helping me find God again and to Willow for making spirituality a way of life.